Love Meets Sexual Needs

Courtney:

The beauty of a committed marital sexual relationship is such a gift. The ability to connect with one’s spouse in a way that no one else can, allows for healing and peace in the midst of life’s trials. In a world fraught with sexual temptation, it is such an encouragement to me that I can be a part of helping my husband guard his heart, as well as help to protect my husband from seeking fulfillment in other ways, simply by meeting his needs in this area. In meeting his sexual desires, I often find that I present a more tangible demonstration of the love, kindness, gentleness, thoughtfulness, protection, honor and forgiveness I may have neglected, or not desired to demonstrate throughout my day. As I make sex more of a priority, I choose to serve and love my husband in the way he needs. As I serve my spouse in meeting his needs, I find that I free him to care for my needs. I am thankful for the healing and unity God has offered through the meeting of sexual needs. What a delight to know that as we serve one another in this way, God is honored and His desire for unity in marriage is uniquely fulfilled.

Marco:

In an attempt to follow suit in a long line of deep and meaningful Christian acronyms, I would like humbly add my efforts.

Single people can’t have it.
Everybody likes it.
Xyzal is an allergy medication which may inhibit your ability to meet sexual needs.

Learned something already? Well we’ve only just begun.

On a few occasions Courtney and I have mused about the genius of our Creator in how He has given us such a strong attraction to each other and desire to share sexual experiences early in our marriage relationship and how that so “coincidentally” shares space on our time line with feeble attempts at handling conflict in loving, kind, gracious or Godly ways often leading to emotional pain and separation. When I am hurt or broken nothing is more encouraging or rebuilding than intimacy with my wife. It’s acceptance. It’s support. It’s a lot of things. Even if she is the one who hurt me through our struggles to learn how to communicate or love, she is still the one that God has put in my life to support me and build me back up. I really believe that based on my vows before God and my wife, He has instilled in me a desire to not want it any other way. God is my source for all things and He has put my wife and I together as one flesh to help us experience all He has for us through each other. Sex has built confidence and trust and has reconnected and unified us in the way God intended when He knew we would need it most. We are constantly under attack and Satan wants nothing more than to destroy any couple with the desire of emulating Christs character in marriage. When we are disconnected emotionally and physically it becomes so difficult to fulfill Gods purpose for each other. So God created sex and we were unified and “one” and God saw that it was good, and I agreed.

-Marco and Courtney DeConto